Those who have walked through the fire leave sparks of light everywhere they go!
How did you become a Women’s Empowerment Coach?
To answer this question, it’s probably best that I share with you a defining moment, and my story that brought me to where I am today – coaching women like you to overcome self-sabotage and release the negative thoughts & beliefs that prevent you from getting what you want, so that you can realize the BRILLIANCE that exists within YOU!
That defining moment in my life happened in 2012…It was the wake up call that changed my life!
The following is MY STORY that brought me to that defining day:
I was a happy, passionate, fun loving, young girl.
Then, I got labeled as ‘chubby’, compared to boys in height and weight, and threatened with having a sign put around my neck that said, ‘Don’t FEED Me!’
My junior high band director told me that ‘’appearance is important and I needed to go on a diet’’ to make high school majorette.
I became anorexic, anemic, and had a vitamin deficiency that resulted in something called ‘drop foot’ where I had no control of one foot.
My parents took me to the doctor who said I should gain 5-10 pounds and I would be fine. I didn’t know how to do that. For most of my life I suffered with eating disorders from anorexic, bulimia, and binging and purging. I gained and lost 50 pounds more times than I can count. I have been on every diet and eating plan there is, had many years of therapy , and attended 12 step groups.
I met my ‘Prince Charming’, we got engaged and then two years later we mutually agreed to end our relationship. I had lost the 'life of my dreams' and didn't know what to do with myself.
I felt lost and confused and so I decided to hop on a plane and travel across the ocean to a spiritual community in Scotland called FINDHORN. I lived and trained in this extraordinary place for several months. I wanted to live there for the rest of my life in ‘utopia’, but they said I needed more life experience…so back home I went.
I continued to be a spiritual seeker, trying to find my SELF, to figure out ‘who’ I was and what I was supposed to do in my life. I found that massage and healing were natural talents of mine so I began doing therapeutic massage for my livelihood.
Throughout this time I was a ferocious self-help book reader, studied with several spiritual teachers and attended workshops with many well-known motivational speakers. I walked over hot coals, broke arrows on my neck and stood on a bed of nails…all in an effort to find my purpose, passion, and a reason for my life. I attended several 12 Step programs that helped me to regain my sanity.
I decided to become a chiropractor so that I could offer more help to my clients. In 1992, I became a licensed chiropractor and I remember thinking “I have it made now! I have it ALL together!” Little did I know that I had a lot more personal growth ahead of me.
Before Weight Loss
My whole life relationships baffled me; I was either in long-term unhealthy relationships or short-term sexual flings. I failed to realize that I was the common denominator. I was usually only in a relationship when I had lost weight or had gotten thin. I kept trying to get love and approval from men in order to feel valued and worthy.
After Weight Loss
Because of my experience from my band director saying, “Appearance is important….go on a diet!” I kept thinking that if I only lost weight everything would be better. It was like it was programed into my head that going on a diet and being the perfect size was the answer to ALL my problems.
The final straw happened when I found myself fully immersed in a dysfunctional relationship that made my head spin. I felt completely out of control and confused.
I asked myself. “How the heck did I get here?” I am a smart, self-aware woman with tons of life experience yet I found myself totally STUCK and not able to leave the relationship.
I couldn’t figure it out or make sense of what was happening. This life-changing incident began to shed light on my transformational breakthrough to come.
I suddenly realized THE NUMBER ONE REASON I couldn’t get what I wanted…and was struggling so much.
It opened my eyes to what was stopping me and after that…it didn’t take me long to shift and get my life back. I regained my power, inner spark, and an unparalleled passion to help women breakthrough similar challenges.
The process of getting my life back taught me SO MUCH about myself. I began DEEP healing work to understand and clear the limiting beliefs that kept me in a loop of self-sabotaging behavior.
I took responsibility for MY part in my relationships and my life.
I completed a project that was dear to my heart, an inspirational card set for women. I have a great desire to helping women get through the challenges and tough times in life and see the brighter future.
After I began to heal my codependent patterns, I wanted to be free, clear the past, and move on. I wanted to come to grips with the eating disorders, which afflicted me, my entire life. I had been eating to stuff my emotions since childhood. I began to learn that this self-sabotaging behavior no longer served me. I surrendered to the fact that emotional eating patterns take time to heal.
I learned to practice ‘progress not perfection’ with food and food behaviors.
I am now free of most of my very destructive eating patterns and continue to improve my relationship with food, focusing on eating for health and vitality.
I relentlessly strive to master self-love and acceptance, which I believe is at the core of self-destructive behaviors and habits.
During my time of recovery, I went to see one of my colleagues for some emotional release work. When I walked into her office I noticed she was happier and her office was much more efficient. I asked her what she was doing and she told me Personal Success Institute (PSI). I wanted what she had so I decided to jump in and take the class based on seeing her results.
As I awakened more and more…I dove head first into all of the advanced PSI classes. I found new like-minded friends who are focused on personal growth. I learned how my thoughts create my reality and that I can do anything and have anything I want in your life.
PSI offered me support, accountability and the opportunity to keep growing and understanding how the mind and body function together.
Dr. Shelley Nash and Bob Proctor at PSI Summit
Throughout my massage and chiropractic practice I loved helping people, yet I kept thinking I had more to give. I knew there MUST be a reason why I had been through so much in my life. I realized many people came to see me for coaching, mindset, and breakthrough work.
As I started helping other women become empowered, I saw their confidence, self worth, self-esteem, and relationships grow tremendously.
I dedicated the rest of my professional life to helping other women who feel stuck to awaken their empowered self, to find the personal power to heal & change, and to create the life they’ve always dreamed of.
Since then, I’ve worked with many private clients and spoken in front of many groups. I live my dream of inspiring and helping women avoid years of suffering and create a deep meaningful connection with themselves and others.
I have created a program to help women who are ready to awaken to their empowered self.
Awaken Your Empowered Self, is a series of 8 essential inner and outer steps every woman needs to apply to get out of her own way, and create lasting change.
- Discover what keeps you from achieving the success you desire.
- Learn proven techniques for releasing your internal resistance and self-sabotaging tendencies so you can take action and start living with passion and purpose.
- Gain greater confidence, increased self-awareness and feel free to live the life you desire!